Hierarchy of Priorities In Present Time

When Rigidity Plays a Role In Creating Burden and Guilt Tripping – Stagnant Value System Plays A Role In Supporting It

In today’s world, we often hear people talking about the hierarchy of their lives—ranking their values, relationships, health, and wealth in a neatly ordered list. Statements like "family comes first," "health is number one," or "money is my top priority" are commonplace. These rankings are not just personal affirmations; they often define how we structure our lives, allocate our time, and measure our success. It also says a lot about our upbringing and our underlying beliefs.

However, this concept of a fixed hierarchy—where certain aspects of life are always at the top—belongs to the old world. It assumes that life is static, that our needs and values do not change, and that the importance of our priorities remains consistent over time. But life is not a ladder or a pyramid where one value must always outrank another. It is a dynamic, ever-changing experience where the relevance of our priorities shifts constantly in the present moment.

Secret to Resilience: Practicing Presence Brings Success in Business and Life

The traditional approach to prioritising aspects of life-such as health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth — suggests that these elements can be permanently ranked in importance. But what happens when you face a health crisis and suddenly, that work project you thought was crucial becomes irrelevant? Or when a personal relationship demands your attention, making your financial goals feel secondary? Or you need to take a business meeting instead of that weekend out? Or you choose to spend time with your partner instead of playing console?

This is where the old-world hierarchy fails us. It is rigid and unresponsive, forcing us to cling to priorities that no longer serve our current reality, especially if we want to be more present and self aware. Just as in traditional business hierarchies, this mindset can lead to frustration, misaligned efforts, and a sense of living out of sync with what truly matters at any given moment.

It makes your decisions ‘’HARD’’. Your hard decisions make your life hard…

• You get in to guilt mode

• You get in to victim mode (world against you)

• You get angry as things don’t go how you wanted (Everyone failure)

• You get in to self sabotaging

• You get in to mental lows

To resolve that we need awareness of what belief of value(positive or negative) is supporting this outcome.

For example:
- Again did not got on time to put your child to sleep together. ( It creates a sense of guilt that may justify your belief on lack of worthiness. )
- Missed Training Session ( Justifying comfort, for keeping emotional plateau )
- Not taking action to maintain relationships ( Rejection and Betrayal are very heavy experiences, that creates early or late detachment/attachment issues)

Sometimes we believe things that make our lives hard, just out of the purpose to protect that memory/filter as it serves you as a GPS in specific life hurdles.

Our whole life perspective is based on filters that can be defined within each element of life.

Now, Instead of adhering to a fixed hierarchy, imagine your life as a fluid landscape where priorities shift and change based on current circumstances.
Different moments, different situations raise in us similar/different responses in decision making and feeling about it based on the expansion of our internal awareness and flexibility in self phased change. You being able to do ‘’The Right’’ Thing.


NOTE TO READER:
In this article we don’t talk about morals, laws, or whatever is influencing our decision making.
Here we talk about aspects of life and how we prioritise decisions in our work - life - family - passion lifestyle.

Consider the concept of priority—what needs your attention right now? It’s about recognizing the most urgent or impactful element in your life at any given moment. It’s not about abandoning other values but understanding that in this moment, one particular aspect requires your focus.

When you are present with your child or a friend and your phone gets notification, what do you do? Naturally. You get a twitch?

Or in a business meeting a ‘’First’’ Call from family is okay, but second one is a must? Or is the first one a Must?

For example, during a career-defining project, work may take precedence over other areas of life. But once that project is complete, your attention may naturally shift back to relationships or health and travelling. Being in the presence is the key to fluid and joyful life. This fluid approach ensures that you are always aligned with what is truly important in the present, rather than being stuck in a rigid, outdated hierarchy.

The Role of Awareness and Adaptability

This shift from a hierarchical approach to one of fluid priority requires a heightened level of self-awareness. It demands that you constantly reassess what is important, rather than assuming that your priorities remain the same. This adaptability is key to living a life that is both balanced and fulfilling.

Moreover, understanding the fluidity of importance can lead to more compassionate and connected relationships. When we stop rigidly ranking our values and start understanding the importance of each aspect of our lives in the moment, we become more empathetic and present with others. We can recognize when our partner needs more attention, when our health needs more care, or when our work needs more focus.

Practical Strategies for Prioritizing in the Now

1. Regular Self-Check-Ins: Set aside time regularly to evaluate what’s most important in your life at that moment. This could be a daily reflection or a weekly review. Ask yourself, “What needs my attention right now? What will make the biggest impact on my well-being?”

2. Mindful Decision-Making: When faced with decisions, consider the broader context of your life. Rather than defaulting to what you believe should be your top priority, consider what truly matters in the current situation.

3. Flexibility in Planning: Avoid stressing out for something that doesn’t go as planned, use the momentum to show the leadership in peaceful and professional execution on the situation if it requires any attention, or effectively delegate and make sure that the team is responsive on the matter.

4. Balancing Immediate and Long-Term Goals: Understand that sometimes, short-term priorities will temporarily overshadow long-term goals. This doesn’t mean abandoning your long-term aspirations, but rather acknowledging the ebb and flow of life’s demands.

5. Communicating with Others: Be open about your shifting priorities with those around you. This transparency can help manage expectations and foster understanding, whether in personal relationships or professional settings.

Embracing a Present Priority-Driven Life

The idea that one value must always dominate your life is not only outdated but also impractical in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world. By shifting your focus from a rigid hierarchy to a flexible, priority value-driven approach, you can navigate life’s complexities with greater ease and effectiveness.

Life is not about rigid rankings or unchanging truths. It’s about recognizing what matters most in each moment and having the courage to act accordingly. When we embrace this fluid approach to priorities, we open ourselves up to a life that is more aligned, more fulfilling, and ultimately more human.

So, let go of the old-world mindset of fixed hierarchies. Embrace the now, prioritise what truly matters, and watch as your life becomes a reflection of what’s most important to you at each moment. After all, it’s not about what comes first on some imagined list—it’s about what’s most important in the here and now.